Posts tagged with ‘dating advice’
It’s tough being a woman in society, especially these days. From #GamerGate to the prevalent rape culture to the NFL’s treatment of women, having a vagina is tough. It’s especially tough when you’re a feminist because a lot of people will give you flack for it, even though being a feminist is literally wanting equality of the sexes.
But as a woman in this world, you will inevitably run into someone who hates women or disrespects women or who is sexist. What do you do if that person is your boyfriend? That’s what you’re talking about on the message boards right now.
Don’t Let Jealousy Ruin Your Friendship: If you both know you like the same person, there is bound to be some jealousy there. You’ll feel it when you see her talking to him, she’ll feel it when she sees you talking to him. Try not to let this jealousy ruin your friendship. If it starts to become too much, you guys need to talk again and come to some sort of agreement.
Always make time for yourself: When you’re in a relationship, it’s really easy to lose track of your own interests. You sort of forget about yourself because you’re focusing on another person. It’s really important to make time for yourself so that you don’t get lost in the relationship.
Signals Don’t Work: Stop using “signals” to try to get a guy to ask you out. No, we’re not all oblivious to them, in fact some of us are pretty damn good at it, but would you use this method with anything else you wanted in life? If you were buying a new car and wanted a certain model, would you give the salesman subtle hints that you want that car over there? No, you’d look him right in the eye and say “I want that car.” So instead of dropping hints, why not just walk right up to the guy and say “Hey, I like you, let’s go out”?
Communicate: Be vocal. Guys aren’t mind readers. If you want something done then tell us; I guarantee we’ll probably do it. One of my best friends is of the opposite sex and it drives me crazy when she tells me if she’s slept with someone and he wasn’t very good because he didn’t do this or he did this but he did it wrong. Communicate.
It’s ok to be nervous: Getting nervous around your crush, boyfriend or girlfriend is totally normal. Those butterflies are a good thing! Don’t let them stop you from talking to someone or having fun. I bet the other person is just as nervous as you are!